saturday-8 :: calling all romantics



1. give us your thoughts on valentine's day ... over-hyped, commercial holiday, or a nice day to share with a 'sweetie?' I think the way it's portrayed is over hyping its significance. I've previously shared that Valentine's Day should exist in our hearts daily. We never know from one day to the next what our fate, or that of our significant others will be. We need to appreciate and respect our spouses/boy/girlfriends each and every day. If not, what's the point of all the candy, flowers, jewelry, dinner, etc. one day a year?



2. do you have a valentine this year? if so, who is it? if not, who would your perfect valentine be? Yes, I do. It's my spouse who's been my Valentine for 24 years and counting!



3. this year, my secretary and i do not have valentines, so we're going to get dinner and go hang out at a gay bar together. a friend of mine tsk'd and said, "oh, lonely hearts club, huh?" that offended me, because we're not lonely ... we just don't have a MAN, plus we have each other to hang out with! do you feel sorry for people who do not have a valentine today? Sorry, no - not at all. I feel sorry and sad for the couples who put on airs on Valentine's Day and in reality, have miserable relationships. Their reality is so unhappy and miserable and this is what makes me sad.



4. my stbx-husband is coming over today to do the things around the house he promised to. he also called to ask if he could bring me lunch. guilt is a WONDERFUL motivator! tell us about something romantic you did because you felt guilty. Hmmm, I can't think of anything. When I know I've done something wrong or offensive, I immediately apologize and try to make amends. I don't know that my amends are romantic, though!



5. do you have any plans for valentine's day? if you don't, tell us about your perfect valentine's day fantasy. Okay, as funny as this will sound, we celebrated Valentine's Day yesterday. The restaurants will be extremely busy and crowded today, so we drove to Malibu last night and had a scrumptuous dinner at Gladstone's restaurant.



We waited maybe twenty minutes to be seated and then got a booth overlooking the ocean! It was very romantic, quiet, and special. We had a couple of drinks, had our photo taken, and had a leisurely two hour dinner. We weren't hurried because others were waiting for the table and it was so busy that the chatter reached a crescendo!



Oh, let me tell you about our photo: As we approached the entrance a woman came up and asked us to pose for our Free Keychain Photo. We obliged and made certain to pose with the ocean as our background. It was a quick photo and we were off. We noticed many people having their photos snapped with the restaurant doors or the take out window as their background. So we dined and when exiting, came upon the counter where our photos were waiting. Our photo showed the ocean and the sunset as our background! It was so perfect and we felt so blessed that we bought two 5 X 7 and received the two keychains free. This was our Valentine gift to ourselves! LOL



So for tonight, we're going out with our neighbors to dinner and then perhaps take in a film. One neighbor recently broke up with her boyfriend and the other is single. We thought it'd be great to just hang out together and celebrate.



6. i'm going out to the mall today (after i get my chores done, of course), and shopping for a red dress or a red corset-type bustier to wear out tonight. tell us about the hottest vday outfit you can think of for a man/woman (your choice!). and 'birthday suit' doesn't count, people! ;) Uh, mine is a G rated blog, I'll take the 5th on this one!



7. my friend invited me to TWO weddings today. my friend has her 11th wedding anniversary today. do you think it's a good idea or a bad idea to get married or propose on such a day? I think their heart and excitement's in the right place, but for the guests, it's an inconvenient date to have a wedding. There's a lot of no shows at weddings that occur on Valentine's, Thanksgiving weekend, December or Christmas week and, of course, New Year's day weddings.



8. there is a lot of debate and discussion about same-sex marriages. san francisco recently married a lesbian couple who have been together for FIFTY-ONE YEARS. do you think that gays and lesbians should be able to share their love and marry just like heteros? be as safe or as controversial in your answer as you like ... this question isn't supposed to bring you flames on your site. i'd just like to know what other bloggers think! Most definitely gays & lesbians should have the same privelege. Love is love. How does one legislate whom one falls in love with? Why are heteros so threatened? If two men/women love each other, that's none of my business. I'm glad they have someone to love and someone who loves them in return. Love is a wonderful feeling and experience and legal marriage is the testament and celebration of such a joyous feeling. Why shouldn't everyone have the right and privelege to enjoy and experience it?



Please, let's not get into what the Bible says. The Bible was also used for years to justify slavery and classcism. Now we think it's deplorable and condemn it. I hope that someday in my lifetime, we'll look back on the dark ages and wonder how it is that we believed it correct to deny American citizens the right to a same sex marriage, if this is what they choose.